The Home Work Conflict of Women

[Excerpt from Guru Kaur's blog on the Be the Woman... Private Online Community for women...]

There's the adage that a man needs a good secretary, a good wife and a good mistress. In modern days we have the stereotype that one woman fulfils all these roles for her husband. She's expected to run the diary, plans and finances; the catering, laundry, decoration, hospitality, and mother, educate, entertain his children; and at the end of the day, after a candlelit dinner a deux of listening to his inflated exploits and concerns, elevate behind closed doors to be a lover beyondhis wildest dreams. It's a tall order, but we all see it's possible - in theory at least.

Where the problem  comes from is when a woman fulfils different roles for different men. It's the foundation of our modern economy and creates one of the great dilemmas we are faced with as women today.

Guru Singh one day was mystified why I didn't know where Nick was; saying he was at work raised his eyebrow. Drilling into me with those steel blue eyes he asked me why I had married Nick. "To spend the rest of my life with him", I replied without a shadow of doubt. "But you don't", was his harsh but fair assessment, "you're ships in the night; you never see each other; you dance to another man's tune."

It was a critical moment in my life. I realised that a large part of the tension...

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